We're all gonna die.

Now that Ebola is close, we better live inside a bubble. 

Not really.

I was freaking out a little bit about this thing, since I don't actually wanna die of a weird incurable disease so I did a little research to calm my nerves. So if you're going down the same road, here are some things to calm you down.

1. It is quite hard to actually get infected.

Yes, as you read. You can't get infected through air, or food or water. So just keep breathing and eating all that delicious food. Also, in order to actually get sick you have to be in direct contact with a person that is already infected and you have to come in contact with the bodily fluids of someone with symptoms, which I'm pretty sure you or anyone you know haven't.

Flu is more contagious so go wash your hands and buy some antibacterial gel. 

2. You can beat Ebola. 

You just need a good doctor, also is not as deadly as it looks. It has only kill 50% of the infected people and there are plenty of other diseases much worst. (HIV, Malaria, even respiratory infections).

Those who have survived can fully recover and they don't infect other humans. 

3. Ebola is spreading in África because of it situation not because it's unstoppable.

In Africa, people tend to feel like their goverments are not as honest as they should so organization is quite hard. Same with other affected countries, some of them don't even know this disease so imagine having people dying who won't listen to you, it just create chaos.

Now, back in the US, Europe and the rest of America, we don't have such major trust issues so giving us instructions should be more easy. 

4.You're going crazy about this when you really shouldn't.

Yes, Ebola is a big problem and it needs to be taken care of but there are a lot of things going on and this should not be your main worry. 

Maybe see what Green Peace is doing, maybe you have a big test next week or maybe you just happen to have a tasty cake slice ready to be eaten. Just enjoy life.

5 things to do in your 20.

I've read a lot about things that girls should do while on their twenties and here I have the 5 things I think every twenty something year old girl should do. You can either hate them or love them, they might not be things that everyone would do but I've already done it and trust me, they've made me learn and grow up like nothing else. 

1. Fall in love and out of it. 

Falling in love is the best feeling to be felt and it makes you see and do things you can never imagine, and obviously when you're 21 years old and find the guy you think is perfect then falling in love is just the next logical step and that part of what you should do. The second part of this action is not for everyone, maybe you find the one in your twenties and you don't need to fall out of love, but for those who didn't, for those who fell in love with a guy that doesn't stop flirting with other girls, that makes you feel insecure, that would do things he wants even if he knows you are going to be in a bad place because of it... all of you, need to fall out of love as soon as possible. 

Yes, I know is not an easy thing but, if you start thinking of yourself as the only thing that matters, then the feeling becomes a blur and it fades a away. Once you don't feel a thing about that guy that was so bad for you, a new streight comes into your body and the next time you feel like falling in love, you will know better.

2. Procrastinating.

This is not  a good advice but you won't be able to do it later. So just for the pleasure of doing nothing go find a romantic movie, ice cream and do nothing. This age is full with university stuff and big decisions that will change your life so if you get five minutes of rest, then take them.

3. Take College/University seriously.

This might seem obvious but trusth me, it is not. When I started University I was in a state of mind where basically I acted like I knew everything just to be accepted or have a lot of new friends, yes maybe popularity was fun but at the end of the day it was just me and a bunch of assignments that I didn't quite understood because I was too busy chating instead of paying attention. Trusth me, is not fun at all.

A couple of semesters after, I realized that I was the only one that could help me and if I wanted to actually have a degree I would have to work hard and learn on my own. Now I'm doing so much better and things are going pretty good but I still regret those first semesters when I was just playing popularity queen,

4.  Find something you're truly pasionate about.

Your 20's are the perfect time to make mistakes and learn from them, to try things and decide if you like them or not. This is the time to find out if you love playing guitar or writing or swiming or knitting. What ever you do, do it seriously and really try, it's the only way to be sure if you love it or hate it.

5. Talk to your parents. 

Now, your parents are not your favourite people while growing up but they know stuff, valuable stuff about life and choices than we could use. Ask them, tell them, listen to them. They can be very helpful and no one while ever listen as well as they do. Problems can de solved so much easier when you have a parental advice. 

Social media is a poison in my life.

Why do I even have a facebook anymore?

At first it was fun, photos, tweets, filters, and for what? I mean those things don't matter when you have a person next to you trying to talk about the awful thing that just happened.  

I blame Steve, Jack and Mark. Those three genious, with this new ideas totally ruined humanity. First Steve with this awesome little things to play music and avoid human contact while walking and let's not even mention the iPhone, all of them from first generation to 6 plus, then Mark with this insipidus blue platform that everyone is obssesed with and finally that stupid little bird that Jack created. 

There was so much more of human relationships back when tecnology was not as popular as it is, the hand written letters, the mix tapes and all of those details that made humans act as people and not just as a bunch of sheep following the nyan cat. Now with our lifes out there in the public eye, things become harder and comunication is not as good as it should. It's was easier for my boyfriend to talk to the girls I hate, it is way easier to see what your ex is doing and it is by far the easiest way to know about someone else's life. 

If my partner dares to like a girl's photo, especially that particular one I totally dislike, then he's gonna have a problem. If I don't accept my mom's friendship request, then I'm gonna have a big issue. Things are never easy when it comes to social media, we take it way too serious and let's be honest, we share too much.

It doesn't matter if it is Facebook or Twitter or Instagram, All of them have something that can cause your life to be a mess, sometimes just by keeping you away from your homework, your family or the real world and let's not even talk about the food photographers (me included) that look way too dumb at every restaurant they go.

I think, what I'm trying to say, in a very poorly way is that contact must be personal and real, all those post about loving someone are not the same as calling to tell "hey babe, I miss you so much and I love you", a photo on Twitter with the funny caption doesn't mean that you're able to make people laugh and certanly, social media is not the right place to have a fight.

Social media, Facebook in particular, has been terrible for my personal relationships., I've seen my best friend breaking up to his loving boyfriend because some girl posted that she had a great time with him, I get freaking upset whenever any girl (just one in particular) comments something on my boyfriend's profile picture "OMG, you're so handsome" "I miss you, I love you more than any other girl, I mean they all love you but I love you more" seriously, what type of person does that? Get over it girl. My profesor can stalk me, any one can and I won't even know. I've seen my male mates cheating and facebook makes it so much easier.  This is how, social media is a poison and human relationships should be created in person, face to face.

The gap between falling in love and loving someone.

"I love you but I'm not in love with you" is the cliché that every movie has. 

I like to think that falling in love leads you to loving someone, that the act of loving involves so much more than just a blind person thinking of some other human. To me, falling in love has to be a part of every I love you. 

The actual falling in love part, makes you excited and happy and it gives you all those quick feelings that later become a deep, strong love towards the person you're with. When you lose that, then it makes no sense to keep going, things have to change, a lot of stuff starts to happen and you need to rethink everything to go back and feel the same things or move on. And that's not happy, that's just sad and painful. 

Now, this is actually easy for the part that loves without been in love, this part can be an individual and act as if things were normal, yes that person might think at night, talk to every one to try to understand what's happening but the real difficulty is explaining all of this to the part of the relationship that is still madly in love and believes things are going just fine. 

When you tell someone that you're not in love with them, something breaks. Yes, you can adore them, and they can be the only person you think of when you imagine a relationship but how is that even fair? You are practically asking for inconditional love when you can't give it back and that can only lead to someone getting hurt. If you fall out of love, the best thing is to sit and explain what changed, without breaking anything, just explaining how time and life made you feel different. 

I don't know if the best thing is to let go and take different roads or if the idea of keep going and trying and really get into the relationship is the answer. But whatever it is, is has to be the best for both parts.

I think the most important part of a relationship is having enough confidence to tell each other what we feel, what we dream and want. If at some point you feel less love, then you should be able to tell your significant other how you feel and the reasons behind it, if not, then you were never really in love and that blind trust was an illusion.

I once read that if you can remind friends with your ex it means you were never truly in love and I guess that's true. When you break up with the person you love, all you want is to be as far as possible so you can't get anymore pain, you don't just run into some best friends relationship, it gives you pain and sadness. So yes, if one of your ex girlfriend/boyfriend doesn't wants to talk to you, then don't push it, maybe you weren't as in love as they were. Only time and space can help. 

I guess, everything love makes us do has no explanation and to love someone requires a lot of colours and the black and the white are just beginnings and ends, I'm not a love expert, I can't tell you when someone is really in love, I couldn't even tell if my own boyfriend was, and maybe I'm not the correct person to talk about this, but I know that there can never be a wrong when it comes to love. 

That Lifelong Enigma, Re-Examined: Can Guys And Girls Be Just Friends?

No, Guys and girls can't be friends because one of them will always have feelings towards the other, society said. I believe something different.

There are quite a lot of guys that I see just as friends and that see me exactly like that, a friend. We can hug, we have road trips, we celebrate birthdays with midnight calls, we do chessy stuff to make the other one smile, we can spend the night on the same house and they would be as disgusted as my brother would be.

I know this can be seen as a weird platonic relationship, but it is the opposite of that, you just have to be clear about every step you take with the other person. Let's say a girl holds a guy's hand and flirts, that's a no for the "we are just friends" zone. Now let's imagine a guy that thinks some girl is the prettiest of the city, another big no. This is why girls get so pissed when their boyfriends have best girl friends, we see things, we know how does a girl with a crush acts, they should listen to us more often,

My friends are guys that, yes they might be cute but I can only see them as the silly idiotic guys they are.

Besides, falling for someone does not necessarily means you have contact with the person every day or almost every day. I talk to my boyfriend almost everyday, I'm madly in love with him and he doesn't feel the same way, now that I think about it maybe I should ask his ex girlfriend what does it feels to have his unconditional love, but that's out of subjetc. The point is that spending time with a guy every day, having dinner with him, going to the movies, does not mean you are in love, it just means he is a really good friend that likes spending time with you. The reality of falling in love is cruel and once you're out of it, is somehow a lie. Love makes the other person perfect and friends don't look like a perfect Ken doll.

There are a few rules that can help you keep a friend as just a friend with no feelings for you, and even as we all know that friendships are more free, having boundaries is never a bad idea.

If your friend, girl or boy, starts to feel like a romantic situation might actually happen between the two, then you must give her/him space, no text, no "let's go get a coffe" dates, no more spending the day together, just space and time, maybe not years but a month is a good start and then you can start catching up, if those feeling are still there, then you can't be just friends and one part will be hurt somehow.

If you're the one having feelings, oh baby you need to step away, better now while you're in one piece than later with tears and a heartbreak.

I can say friendship between a men and a women is possible, because I have one, and it is the best friendship I can even think of. He is about two years older, he is one of my role models, we can talk for hours, we can eat a huge entire chocolate cake together, we miss each other, we love each other, my parents adore him, my brother thinks he is the only cool guy I know and he is also as disgusting as the idea of kissing my brother. 

He, on the other hand is a ladies guy and has one night stands every 10 nights a week, and is not really into the romantic monogamy relationship like I am, obviously I should reconsider that since I have a broken heart even when I feel in love. He sees me as a confident and although he doesn't gives much details about the girls the hooks up with (Thank God, I don't need to know that stuff) he does tells me when it happen and it is always about me telling him to stop doing it. 

I love what we have, it allow us to see the other gender perspective and it is refreshing, all girls or all boys can be tiring. 

I think the most important thing about having a guy/girl friend is that they should never be some one that you use, if the other person has feelings then talk and explain, put some space and don't act like nothing happened, but don't ever take advantage of those out of context feelings. Remember that a real friend is worth so much and finding them is extremely difficult.