What my long distance relationship has taught and keeps teaching me.

My one year anniversay is in 14 days. That's all I was thinking for the past two months, marking the days and doing a countdown when in reality I was supposed to be thinking about what to do after that one year mark and I was probably supposed to talk to my boyfriend too. 

When you decide to take the risk on a long distance relationship, no matter how short that distance is, you need to have a few things in mind, and to me that was the easy part, the hard part of all this came after a couple of months away from my boyfriend, and even if we're only four hours away, it feels like an entire universe. You need to know that I was not sure about wanting a relationship like this, and, certainly, my boyfriend was not a very big fan of the idea and somehow he agreed. 

On this seven months away, I've learnt a lot of things, but is hasn't got any easier.There are things that never change and things that need work but trust me on this one, a long distance relationship is just as hard as a normal one. So, here they are, a few of those many things I've learnt.

1. If he used to ignore his phone while you were together, he will do it when you're apart. 

I don't mean never taking your calls, but maybe send a couple of them to voicemail because he is with his best girl friend, or a bunch of college friends at this bar, he will do exactly as he wants, and you will do too. You can ignore him, get mad at him, cry, and he doesn't even have to know. It can save a lot of drama but it can also create a lot more, specially if he hangs out a lot with one particular person and decides to ignore your crazy important "what are you doing text"

2. Skype, social media, and your phone are, from the start and until you are reunited, your most dear possesions.

You can't see him, you can't hug him but you can speak a hell of a lot to him, skype is a miracle made in heaven, if your boyfriend doesn't get tired of technology, and your phone is your main communication with your partner. Embrace them, learn to love them, and don't get tired of texting and calling, ever.

3. As much as you try, you have a life apart from him, and he does too. 

He can't follow on everything that's going on 500 miles away from him and you can't either, you'll tell the most important things, you'll talk but every little detail is hard to remember. He might even forget your anniversary or your birthday, but it's not on purpose. Also, you can't both be sitting all day talking on skype, so yes you both will go out with other people, just don't ignore your phone.

4. Traveling is hard. 

"we will see each other every weekend and we'll take turns, and it'll be as if we were never apart" is not happening, traveling costs money, time and effort, you might have all of those but what about college, work and all those things? finding a weekend that suits both is not as easy as it seems. 

5. Everyone will tell you it's better to breakup.

I don't tell you what to do, so just leave me alone. 

6. You both, will have a meltdown at one point and starts consider to breakup.

This feeling will pass if you talk to each other and consider all the worthy things that the other person has. Don't let it grow, don't feed it, talk about it with your significant other and it will go away.

7. I will never get easier.

You'll never stop missing him, loving him or thinking about him, The distance won't get any shorter and the time apart will only disappear if one of you moves to the place where the other lives. But the time that you get to spend with your love one, will be the best ever. 

8. It is all worth it. 

The long nights with no sleep, the waiting, the missing and all those large phone bills are worth the effort. If you can survive a long distance relationships, then there is nothing you two can't do. 

Either you decide that a long distance relationship is for you or not, never forget that when loves goes away you need to keep the door open to let him back in. 

First writing of the year.

Haven't been here since last year.... bad joke, I know. I'm stupid, I'm sorry.

How is 2015 looking so far? Mine seem to have started the way 2014 went on for the last month, I feel like a truck crushed me and someone tried to put me back together, but with some missing pieces and not everything its in it's place. It might not be clear or make a lot of sense, trust me, even for me it feel confusing.

Someone once told me that one of the reasons to keep going is love and when love is lost you have to rely on everything else, leaving a door open so it can return and make you happy again but what if love is not lost but still refuses to get in? what do you do then, because it freaking hurts as hell and it surely makes you feel like the world is pointless. What if love feels obligated to be inside when all it wants is to see the world and be free... nobody told me what to do in that situation. I'm sorry about the obvious depressive state that I might put you in, but as Olly Murs would say: Dear Darling please excuse my writing. 

That last weeks of 2014 were supposed to be the most exciting and happy ever, I was supposed to feel complete, with my family, my boyfriend, my career, and university finally over but instead it turned out to be one of the saddest, loneliest moments of my life. All I did was crying, fighting with the people I love and pushing everyone away from me, because I, apparently, hate being happy.

I feel like I screwed up every good thing and the ones that I didn't ruined, were also screwed up by life. So yeah, 2014 was not my best year. And the 3 days that 2015 has giving me so far, haven't been so good either. I even got mad at God for all the things happening around, but obviously is not really his fault, I just need someone to blame. 

I'm hoping for a much better year this time, I got some huge changes ahead of me and some big important life changing decisions to make and I'm hoping to know how to chose this time. Technically I should be ready but I don't feel quite there yet, only time will tell. 

We're all gonna die.

Now that Ebola is close, we better live inside a bubble. 

Not really.

I was freaking out a little bit about this thing, since I don't actually wanna die of a weird incurable disease so I did a little research to calm my nerves. So if you're going down the same road, here are some things to calm you down.

1. It is quite hard to actually get infected.

Yes, as you read. You can't get infected through air, or food or water. So just keep breathing and eating all that delicious food. Also, in order to actually get sick you have to be in direct contact with a person that is already infected and you have to come in contact with the bodily fluids of someone with symptoms, which I'm pretty sure you or anyone you know haven't.

Flu is more contagious so go wash your hands and buy some antibacterial gel. 

2. You can beat Ebola. 

You just need a good doctor, also is not as deadly as it looks. It has only kill 50% of the infected people and there are plenty of other diseases much worst. (HIV, Malaria, even respiratory infections).

Those who have survived can fully recover and they don't infect other humans. 

3. Ebola is spreading in África because of it situation not because it's unstoppable.

In Africa, people tend to feel like their goverments are not as honest as they should so organization is quite hard. Same with other affected countries, some of them don't even know this disease so imagine having people dying who won't listen to you, it just create chaos.

Now, back in the US, Europe and the rest of America, we don't have such major trust issues so giving us instructions should be more easy. 

4.You're going crazy about this when you really shouldn't.

Yes, Ebola is a big problem and it needs to be taken care of but there are a lot of things going on and this should not be your main worry. 

Maybe see what Green Peace is doing, maybe you have a big test next week or maybe you just happen to have a tasty cake slice ready to be eaten. Just enjoy life.

5 things to do in your 20.

I've read a lot about things that girls should do while on their twenties and here I have the 5 things I think every twenty something year old girl should do. You can either hate them or love them, they might not be things that everyone would do but I've already done it and trust me, they've made me learn and grow up like nothing else. 

1. Fall in love and out of it. 

Falling in love is the best feeling to be felt and it makes you see and do things you can never imagine, and obviously when you're 21 years old and find the guy you think is perfect then falling in love is just the next logical step and that part of what you should do. The second part of this action is not for everyone, maybe you find the one in your twenties and you don't need to fall out of love, but for those who didn't, for those who fell in love with a guy that doesn't stop flirting with other girls, that makes you feel insecure, that would do things he wants even if he knows you are going to be in a bad place because of it... all of you, need to fall out of love as soon as possible. 

Yes, I know is not an easy thing but, if you start thinking of yourself as the only thing that matters, then the feeling becomes a blur and it fades a away. Once you don't feel a thing about that guy that was so bad for you, a new streight comes into your body and the next time you feel like falling in love, you will know better.

2. Procrastinating.

This is not  a good advice but you won't be able to do it later. So just for the pleasure of doing nothing go find a romantic movie, ice cream and do nothing. This age is full with university stuff and big decisions that will change your life so if you get five minutes of rest, then take them.

3. Take College/University seriously.

This might seem obvious but trusth me, it is not. When I started University I was in a state of mind where basically I acted like I knew everything just to be accepted or have a lot of new friends, yes maybe popularity was fun but at the end of the day it was just me and a bunch of assignments that I didn't quite understood because I was too busy chating instead of paying attention. Trusth me, is not fun at all.

A couple of semesters after, I realized that I was the only one that could help me and if I wanted to actually have a degree I would have to work hard and learn on my own. Now I'm doing so much better and things are going pretty good but I still regret those first semesters when I was just playing popularity queen,

4.  Find something you're truly pasionate about.

Your 20's are the perfect time to make mistakes and learn from them, to try things and decide if you like them or not. This is the time to find out if you love playing guitar or writing or swiming or knitting. What ever you do, do it seriously and really try, it's the only way to be sure if you love it or hate it.

5. Talk to your parents. 

Now, your parents are not your favourite people while growing up but they know stuff, valuable stuff about life and choices than we could use. Ask them, tell them, listen to them. They can be very helpful and no one while ever listen as well as they do. Problems can de solved so much easier when you have a parental advice. 

Social media is a poison in my life.

Why do I even have a facebook anymore?

At first it was fun, photos, tweets, filters, and for what? I mean those things don't matter when you have a person next to you trying to talk about the awful thing that just happened.  

I blame Steve, Jack and Mark. Those three genious, with this new ideas totally ruined humanity. First Steve with this awesome little things to play music and avoid human contact while walking and let's not even mention the iPhone, all of them from first generation to 6 plus, then Mark with this insipidus blue platform that everyone is obssesed with and finally that stupid little bird that Jack created. 

There was so much more of human relationships back when tecnology was not as popular as it is, the hand written letters, the mix tapes and all of those details that made humans act as people and not just as a bunch of sheep following the nyan cat. Now with our lifes out there in the public eye, things become harder and comunication is not as good as it should. It's was easier for my boyfriend to talk to the girls I hate, it is way easier to see what your ex is doing and it is by far the easiest way to know about someone else's life. 

If my partner dares to like a girl's photo, especially that particular one I totally dislike, then he's gonna have a problem. If I don't accept my mom's friendship request, then I'm gonna have a big issue. Things are never easy when it comes to social media, we take it way too serious and let's be honest, we share too much.

It doesn't matter if it is Facebook or Twitter or Instagram, All of them have something that can cause your life to be a mess, sometimes just by keeping you away from your homework, your family or the real world and let's not even talk about the food photographers (me included) that look way too dumb at every restaurant they go.

I think, what I'm trying to say, in a very poorly way is that contact must be personal and real, all those post about loving someone are not the same as calling to tell "hey babe, I miss you so much and I love you", a photo on Twitter with the funny caption doesn't mean that you're able to make people laugh and certanly, social media is not the right place to have a fight.

Social media, Facebook in particular, has been terrible for my personal relationships., I've seen my best friend breaking up to his loving boyfriend because some girl posted that she had a great time with him, I get freaking upset whenever any girl (just one in particular) comments something on my boyfriend's profile picture "OMG, you're so handsome" "I miss you, I love you more than any other girl, I mean they all love you but I love you more" seriously, what type of person does that? Get over it girl. My profesor can stalk me, any one can and I won't even know. I've seen my male mates cheating and facebook makes it so much easier.  This is how, social media is a poison and human relationships should be created in person, face to face.